Aamir Khan’s daughter Ira Khan had recently had opened up about her battle with depression. Ira had shared that she was clinically depressed for four years. In her latest video, Ira has spoken about her privileged life and how despite all that she has been dealing with mental health issues.
Ira also clarified that her parent’s divorce didn’t scar her the way people generally assume. She went on to add that her parents had an amicable divorce and their decision never became a cause of her sadness.
Taking to her Instagram account, Ira shared almost a 10-minute long video. In the caption, she wrote, “I never spoke to anyone about anything because I assumed that my privilege meant I should handle my stuff on my own, or if there was something bigger, it would make people need a better answer than “I don’t know.” It made me feel like I needed a better answer and until I had that answer, my feelings weren’t something I should bother anyone else with. No problem was big enough to ponder too long about. What would anyone do? I had everything. What would anyone say? I had said it all.”
In the video, Ira, speaking about her parents’ divorce, said that it didn’t traumatise her and that their decision to separate never amounted to one of the reasons behind her depression. “When I was small, my parents got divorced. But that didn’t seem like something that would traumatise me because my parents’ divorce was amicable. They are friends, the whole family is still friends. We are not a broken family by any means,” Ira said in her video.
Apparently, she was hinting at Kangana Ranaut’s claims that while there can be many reasons for depression but children from broken families suffer more.
Further speaking about how her parents have always been for her and her brother Junaid even after their divorce, Ira shared, “My parents were very good about being parents to Junaid and me, even after divorce. And when people would say ‘Oh I am so sorry to hear about your parents’ divorce, I would be like (shrugs) ‘What are you talking about? It is not a bad thing. Another privilege I didn’t realise. It could be something that could scar you. It didn’t scar me. I don’t remember most of it but I didn’t feel like my parents’ divorce is something that could bother me. So that can’t be the reason why I am feeling so sad.”
You can watch Ira’s entire video below:
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HINDI VERSION – LINK IN BIO. I never spoke to anyone about anything because I assumed that my privilege meant I should handle my stuff on my own, or if there was something bigger, it would make people need a better answer than “I don’t know.” It made me feel like I needed a better answer and until I had that answer, my feelings weren’t something I should bother anyone else with. No problem was big enough to ponder too long about. What would anyone do? I had everything. What would anyone say? I had said it all. I still think there’s a small part of me that thinks I’m making all this up, that I have nothing to feel bad about, that I’m not trying hard enough, that maybe I’m over reacting. Old habits die hard. It takes me feeling my worst to make myself believe that it’s bad enough to take seriously. And no matter how many things I have, how nice to me people are because of my dad, how nice to me people are because they love and care about me… if I feel a certain way, a certain not nice way, then how much can rationally trying to explain these things to myself do? Shouldn’t I instead get up and try and fix things? And if I can’t do that for myself? Shouldn’t I ask for help? . . . #mentalhealth #privilege #depression #repression #divorce #sexualabuse #letstalk #betterlatethannever #letitout #depressionhelp #askforhelp
In the same video, Ira also revealed that she was sexually abused when she was just 14-year-old. “When I was 14 I was sexually abused. And it was a slightly odd situation in a sense that I didn’t know whether the person knew what they were doing and it wasn’t happening every day. It took me about a year to be sure that they knew what they were doing. Immediately I wrote an email to my parents and got myself out of that situation. And once I got out of that situation I didn’t feel so bad anymore. I wasn’t scared and I was like this is not happening to me anymore and it’s over. I moved on and let it go. Once in a while, I felt how I was silly to let it happen. Again it was not something that has scarred me for life,” she said.
She added further that when she was about 19-20, she still felt sad but didn’t know what was making her feel so. She never shared her feelings with others as she thought why to burden them with something that they won’t be able to help her with. She ended her video by saying, “I had no reason to feel like this. So my own sense of privilege or my own sense of feeling that I had to have a good enough reason to feel like this made me not talk to anyone.” Ira ended her video abruptly for which she even apologised to her fans and followers.
More power to you Ira as it takes immense courage to open about such feelings.